Accepting Who You Are

After several failed romantic relationships and a failed marriage. I use those past experiences as a guide to figure out how to navigate the exciting but sometimes confusing world of my relationship with my boyfriend.  I recall what worked and what did not work and the reasons why. Accepting that every relationship between two individuals is very unique helps me stay away from comparisons.

I have also became more accepting of not only who my boyfriend is but who I am and how I react.

Creating Your Story Together

As this year is ending I have taken time out of sometimes hectic schedule to reflect on what situations and experiences I want in my life and the ones I have been blessed to already have attracted. The course my life takes affects the people in my life, just as much as it obviously affects me. So for me it's a no brainer  that whenever an individual is involved in a relationship with an adult that person should also be made aware of what goals their partner is pursing. Because even though as individuals we must go through the experience ourselves to get to our goals, each story or goal leads to the same place at the end to be together.

Seasons Greetings 2014

This holiday season is always a great time to reflect on all of the wonderful people and places in my life. I'm grateful for the friends in my life, my new job, my fantastic finances, my wonderful boyfriend and all he puts up with, my wonderful mother and all she does for me, my fantastic siblings and all of the fun I can count on them to have, this beautiful city, state and country I reside in and the wonderful people that live in it; the fantastic sex, the books I read, the stories and novels I write and the many other things that bring a smile to my face.

Happy Holidays to you the reader. I hope that this year has been and continues to be as delicious as mine.

A TOAST TO WET DREAMS and HOT FUDGE.

Taking Care of You

This great Fall week I am getting a dose of my own medicine, I neglected to take care of this wonderful, sexy and special body I have. So naturally I have a fever. I've missed some personal deadlines and work, but at the end of the day I am alive. This all could have been avoided had I took a few less steps before and just relaxed giving my mind and body time to rest; something all living creatures need.

And now to my point, the end result in anything we do is to live another day to do it all over again. No one can do that if their not alive. Saying NO to your partner, friends, co-workers, manager, family when they ask of you more than you can give at that moment is OK. If YOU the reader aren't around tomorrow because you could not say NO that would be a sad thing. I'm sure your partner, friends, and family want to see you another day.

Pick and Choose Your Advice

In our relationship my partner and I have intertwined families I now better know his family and friends and he knows my family and friends better . Maybe because I'm in a relationship now I am attracting friendships with people who are in a stable relationship. I am learning from what people say and don't say. The loving long term relationships are based on compassion and lots, lots of patience, the not so loving relationships were the couples are constantly arguing or mad at each other are full of anger, resentment, and almost no communication.

Being able to observe the small but subtly interactions between the couples around you is important, because when you want advice on improving your relationship you don't want to go the friend that has a problem with being faithful. In the same way if that friend is giving advice on relationships you need to let it go in one ear and out the other.

Either way I don't take advice, I gather opinions and use what I want.

Stop, Look and Listen

As a women with many friends I often contemplate, like a lot of women; how my relationship with my partner is different or the same as my friends. I do the "comparison" thing in the back of my head, not because I have to but because I can, and thoughts are like opinions everyone has one.

So I realize that these "thoughts" I have when I compare my life, relationship, job, income, lifestyle are all stories, yes stories I tell myself about how better or worse a friend is in a certain area of their life. Of course the people we most associate with affect our lives, but each person as an individual adult has a preset determined list of what they consider wrong or right. So if we have our own set of beliefs why are so many of us; myself included, so often preoccupied with thoughts of comparison.

I propose a new idea for myself, stop, look and listen.

STOP the random thoughts, the moment you notice them.
LOOK at yourself, mirror, reflection, recognize yourself as you.
LISTEN to what is going on around you; someone talking to you or just the sound of the wind.

When we can recognize and accept us for being us without comparison we continue to move forward to a better place in all aspect of our lives.

The Captains' Desires

This weeks blog post is dedicated to "desires".
Definition: to wish or long for; crave, want.

I desire many things in my life, material, mental, and spiritually things. I desire to have a well written blog that inspires, motives readers to be a better person, that's just one example. I bring up the subject because I realized long time ago that we individually carry within us the ability to motive ourselves, where does that motivation come from, you got it "DESIRE" when you want it, you want it. I love that I have some many desires, it keeps me going everyday even when I want to quit my 9-5 or just tell some people to "go shove it".

This also takes me to the part were I bring up my relationship with my wonderful boyfriend. I discuss my desires with him, he is clearly aware of them and when I am slacking and not doing what I said I would, I can count on him pointing it out. He never once criticized my desires; OK maybe once, my desire to travel the world with him, but I'm still working on it. But seriously its so important to have a partner that supports your desires, I encourage everyone to share your wants with your partner on a daily basis. Also when the haters come by to visit, whether at work, family or friends, and they will; please just remember who is running the ship, if you look in the mirror you'll see the Captain of the ship.


Captain Mercedes Cruz

Our Handbook

This year has been a year full of changes for the better, a new job, new apartment, new friends, but most importantly a stronger relationship with my partner.

As time passes and we each continue to pursue our goals while supporting each other our commitment for each other gets stronger. I often wondered how couples living with each other for years in harmony did it. I know there is no handbook on "how to navigate your relationship" because each couple has a unique relationship with each other. However if I made a handbook for my past self to read it would definitely say "keep moving forward each towards a goal, always having each other in mind and nothing is impossible".

"The Only One"

Sometimes when I'm alone, and no one is around. I think about all of the wonderful people, things and places in my life. With that said, I think about my relationship with my boyfriend. A wonderful man who I love and respect.

I never thought to myself "the only one" for me when I met my boyfriend or when I fell in love with him, and I still don't believe in that theory. What I do believe is that relationships are a compromise between two consenting  adults. The relationship has its up's and down's. In the process we learn each others ways, and have decided to stay together and move forward together.

For me the only one for sure always in my life is myself, I know that no matter what happens between me and someone else. The only one I will always have to responded to is me, because I can't leave my body until its time to go.

Getting to the point "The Only One" already exist in your life, look in the mirror and you will see that person.

Anticipating

One of the best things I do with my weekends ( Sunday evening) is prepare myself for my week. I figure out what I want to accomplish that week ( Monday- Friday). This leaves me with no room to waste time on non-essential task for the week. This also means that before I schedule anything that might and will come up during the week, I can look at my already set schedule and decide if I can do it. This concept of preparing for the week is not new for me, but putting it into action; preparing and committing is definitely new.

I now relieve that the old me a few months ago is not the same me of today.

That by preparing for the outcomes I want, I am anticipating and attracting those outcomes.

This way when my wonderful boyfriend wants to play I don't feel stressed out because I don't know when I can fit in the time or feel guilty because I took time to play instead of doing a task I meant to do.

The old me didn't make concrete plans for the future because she wasn't sure what she wanted but the new me is clear and plans for what she wants. This style of living means that the free time I have is precious and I can't afford to waste it on non important things. This in turn makes my relationship with my partner even stronger, because he sees I have a strong passion for my goals, but still make time for him.

Ignore and Ignite

After what seemed to be one of the shortest and productive weekends I've had in a long time. I realized that by planning and staying committed to the small weekly "must do's" I can accomplish my goals. With that said this planning part means ignoring a lot of things, including things that happen to "come up", because something always comes up. Once the planning is said and done comes the most important part, committing to what you've planned. The commitment is what I consider the igniting part, just like the stove you need to turn on the fire to cook food, no fire and the pot could stay there the whole year and nothing will happen; well expect your food will rot.

This theory for me also includes making time with your significant other; you have to make time by conditioning yourself to ignore many little things and ignite (arose) each other, however you feel necessary.

Gratitude

This blog post is dedicated to everyone who has ever read my blog. I started this blog because I have opinions that I want to share with others and I hope that the reader might find some of my opinions thought provoking and in turn it improves their life.

With that said I also want to Thank directly my wonderful boyfriend for his love and respect. He supports me in everything I do; sometimes with a smirk and a side comment, when that thing I want to do gets in the way of "our time" together.

I have many things to be grateful for daily, but especially for the people in my life that make it so GRREAT.

In December of last year, I didn't like the direction my life was going and I knew that it was up to me to take a hold of the wheel and take my life where I wanted it to go. Its been almost a year now and although I have many goals not yet accomplished I have faith and gratitude for the car (me) and the road (steps) I am on and the places its taking me to.

Life is like a box of chocolate you never know what you're going to get, unless you pick the chocolates your self, than you get what you want.

I pick my own chocolates.

Mercedes Cruz

Motivation

This past weekend was filled with fun activities for me. I managed to complete tasks from my "must do" list and I also did some fun things in the mean time. I felt relaxed and productive.

I also had a lot of motivation, I prepared a great Sunday Football meal for my boyfriend, prepared my lunch for the entire week and cleared my email inbox.

I am not sure where the motivation came from, maybe it was something I read, heard, or watched. I do know that as I completed these task' , I never thought about it as a chore or a "must do",  but simply something I was doing because I wanted to and it felt.

From what I can tell, when motivation strikes go with it and get the most out of it.

Moving Forward

Its the end of the summer season, one last trip out of town and one last BBQ. Sometimes entering a new season serves as a reminder for me, a reminder to make room for the new things that are coming into my life. In order to make room for the new things, material or other wise, we have to leave the old (past) behind. In my case its letting go of the fat in my body to make room for lean muscles, summer clothing for fall clothing, bad habits for new great habits, and memories of the bad times to make room for new memories.

Moving forward also could mean leaving some people in your life in the past, to make room for the great relationships waiting for you.

Whatever stage of our lives we are in, I change is good, change signifies moving forward.

I plan to go with the seasons and leave the past behind, make room for the new, and keep moving forward.

What I Learned

"In three words I can sum up what I've learned about life: It goes on." Robert Frost

During this wonderful weekend I rediscovered or relearned something new. The lesson was costly and time consuming but did I learn something ? Yes in deed. I learned more than one thing, but what will forever stay with me is the fact that every one has their own way of thinking.

Now some people reading this they might say "Duh Mercedes, we all know that", for the most part I know this but in my daily life going to and from work and running my weekly and errands I see people doing the same things I'm doing and some how I forget that we aren't all doing or going to the same place.

My beautiful point here is that aren't we lucky that all humans don't think alike. It's what makes this whole beautiful planet so great. I think and do how I want and you do the same.

 "It goes on".


Mercedes Cruz

Rest Day

Sunday is my official rest day. I eat the foods I want and do something that makes me happy weather it's by myself or with a friend. But this wasn't always the case for me. I would say that such and such days were my "rest days" and something would come up; a meeting, writing deadlines, family or friend events. This full schedule was starting to take a toll on my mental and physical health, as well as my relationship with friends and most importantly my partner.

At first it was hard to see "Why was I so stressed out?"
I started to doubt my abilities "Was I not smart, innovative or determined enough to do it all". These thoughts of self doubt only added fuel to the fire that was already starting between my boyfriend and I . It wasn't until I  was awaken on a Sunday morning by a sharp shooting pain going up and down the whole right side of my body. I could barely get up. I decided go see the massage/ acupuncture shop on the corner of my block. Something I had not done for while. I got lucking and the friendly staff squeeze me in for a later appointment. I went home, walking in pain and two hours later went back for my one hour deep tissue massage. I left the place feeling like a new me. I went home and had some much need fun.

So don't wait to give yourself a rest, because life waits for no one. The reports, articles, errands will still be there.

Take your rest day serious and honor it as if it were a work day. Your sex life will thank you for it.

Commitment

We all have commitments, young and old, the first and most obvious one being staying alive. Then many adults have professional commitments. For me my professional commitments including writing a blog post weekly, staying active as a member of RWA (Romance Writers of America) and continuing to write and submit my short stories and romance novels.

I also have a commitment to my boyfriend, a commitment to be honest and faithful. When I am honest I am myself, relaxed and happy. My personal and professional commitments also keep me honest because those are things I find important.

Being in a relationship is easy only if we are committed to working on it every single week in and out, when both persons are committed to being with each other in an open and honest relationship the road becomes smoother to travel on.

As Much Love as I Give Myself

I'm a big believer that we should give what and when we can to others, and in return we will get this back; not necessarily from the same person. I also believe that if we over give we open ourselves up to be taken advantage of. So the concept is still true when you give more than you have; time, money, love, attention, you leave yourself with none.

You not only have none for yourself but now you're depleted making you bitter. This affects your professional and personal relationship and if this cycle doesn't change not much in your life will change.

I plan on giving my partner as much love as I give myself.

Dedication

Dedication -defined  as the act of dedicating or the state of being dedicated.

This single word is very powerful, its often used to described what one person would do for another or others. I consider the word very special to me, in dealing with my daily life. I have goals that I have set for myself both personal and professional; and I know with dedication those goals are attainable.

But there is something else I like about the word. Its the simple fact that its a state of acting or being. Most people have so much going on in their daily schedules that they're not dedicated to anything its, just the same thing every week.

For me when I see a person who is dedicated I think "oh that's hot"; I see the sweat, tears, anger, fatigue, and other feels that come up for that person but they continue in  "the state of being dedicated".When you are dedicated to something that is special to you; aside from family, work, business, it says something about you. I think it sends a message " I care about me and what I want".

For me personally with my partner this translates into better sex; I'm turned on by his dedication to himself, and that's always a good thing.

Love and War

This past week the international news has been filled with the story of war between to neighboring countries. It is unfortunate when individuals and/or as a groups collectively decide that there is no other option but war.

How does this relate to relationships between men and women ? We choose everyday when we wake up how we will feel that day. Sometimes we have things on our minds that we allow to dictate how we will feel and react the whole day. Granted I have what I consider a healthy relationship with my boyfriend we argue; say nasty things to each other, scream, shout; but by the end of the day we forget that we were fighting and we go to bed as if nothing happened ( most of the time). The next morning we're the same love birds, from our first date years ago.

I believe we can apply how we react to strangers the same way we react to loved ones, who at one point in our lives were also strangers.

Education is the key to Great SEX !!

I spent this past weekend knee deep in the topic of sex and the different types of sex. I purchased the book titled "Sex Unlimited" by Dr. Charley Ferrer, she was a guest speaker at the event I attended. On my train ride home I explored the book from the comfort of my purse, where no fellow passengers could take a look at my book with their wandering eyes.

As I continued to read the book at home, enjoying the topic and absorbing the information; a small window in my sub conscience opens up; its as if I'm letting the old stale air (old beliefs) out  and letting in fresh air (new beliefs). I have always thought of myself as open minded and well educated on the topic of sex, but like anything if we don't use it we lose it.

To me the topic of SEX is extremely important in my life as an adult, it is the best way to release tension, and one of the important ways we show love for our partners. Now that I've opened up that window, I'm curious, curious to learn more about sex and my body.

Education the more you know the better it gets

Freedom

It was a wonderful 4th of July Weekend; I celebrated with my boyfriend and friends. The weather was perfect, the food was perfect and so was the company. As I reflect on what the 4th of July means to me as US citizen, I think about all of the little wonderful things in my life. Things like fresh air, an abundance of restaurants, shops, amusement parks, parks, museums that I have access to, the protection I get from those who serve this country in the armed forces. I am grateful for it all everyday.

I also think about the people in my life; friends, family, boyfriend and the choices they made that led them into my life. I see freedom as a tool that everyone all over the world have access to. We choose everyday what we are going to do with what we have. I think its important not to waste that freedom we are all given, if you have people around you that you love and that love you, show and tell them everyday; because at the end freedom is not free we have to work at it. So if you have it and want to keep it, you have to make time for it.

Trust ??

Recently I have allowed my negative thoughts take over my mind; I have been questioning all that I do and those people in my life, perhaps its just a normal part of life was we grow wiser. I think to question most things in life is the best approach in life, but when we allow these unanswered questions to take over our mind and everyday choices, it becomes a problem. Not knowing can leave us confused, angry, and uncomfortable.

I've found my own solution to this small dilemma of questioning / over thinking , I make up my mind with the information I have right there and stick to my decision. If everything works out great, if it does all go perfect, I get to learn what I don't like and maybe how to do it differently, but whatever I choose I trust my choice.

This system works for in all aspects of my life including my imitate relationship with my partner, not knowing can be fun, new places, new positions, new ideas. We get involved in relationships with people we trust, we trust them have our best interest at hand; so its important to have the same trust from ourselves.

I trust this blog post makes sense.

Work B$t@h

"Work B$t@h" my new favorite song by Ms. Britney Spears. The title is to the point and so are the lyrics. Why is this my new favorite song, well for all the right reasons. Everything about the song is true, you have to work for what you want. You work to pay your bills, you work cooking meals ,cleaning your place and work on having a good relationship with your significant other.

So when I feel tired mentally and physically from a long week of work, I think of all the things I'm working for the great things in my life that make it easier and more enjoyable due to the work I put in and even though everyday won't be a "work b$t@h" day, when it is I will be putting in extra work with my new favorite song.

"You Better Work B$t@h"

Is it Time for Us ?

Lately I have been juggling a very busy schedule with events after work and on weekends. During these hectic times, I still find time to take care of myself, get my manicure and pedicure, my hair done and maybe a full body massage. I meet up with a friend for drinks and even read a book and going shopping online, and yes I consider all of the above little things I do for myself a must; so I fit it in to my schedule no matter what.

So as I sit here and write my blog post weekly, I also think about what did I not make a priority in my schedule last week, that perhaps I should have. Things like drinking more water, getting more sleep, cleaning the house, cleaning out my closet and one very important "to do" spend time with my partner. Too often we neglect our partners; husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, life partner, special someone, we figure they should understand "I'm busy". Yes you're busy, busy doing what ? 

I realize adding time into our schedule to spend together is a must, so for me if that means adding the "event" to my phone calendar and inviting my partner then that's what I'm doing. Some people might find that tacky or impersonal. Every couple has to do what works for them. 

So if my partner ask "is it time for us?" I can look at my calendar and answer that. 

Goals are Sexy

As soon as I come in from a long day of work and after-work activities I usually have my wonderful partner waiting for me at the door with a smile and wink.The same smile and wink he gives me when he wants some nooky. I'm not sure when exactly its started but there came a point in our relationship were we have nooky more often. I want to say that a number of reasons could be the answer including age , and recently moving in together, but its not that easy especially since we are both so busy, we get one day out of the week together. Most times I get home so exhausted all I want to do is crawl to the bed and sleep like a baby.

Don't get me wrong I'm a sexual women, I crave it just as much as my partner does.

My point here is this I notice that when my partner and myself made concrete goals, goals that involved us we found each other more interesting, and that interest turns in to a craving, a craving to be next to that person to surround  yourself with them. Its as if my aspirations are turning him on , he founds it sexy.

So if I need another reason to continue to reach for my goals, besides getting what I ultimately want, in the mean time I get my partners extra attention. I think its a great reason.

What's So interesting ?

I'm constantly questioning what's so interesting about my life ? What's so interstng about Mercedes Cruz. I look at my relationships with my partner, my friends, family and coworkers.

I don't know why exactly I think about these relationships so often, maybe it's the constant reminder I get from the commercials, advertisements and the media, that I need this product or that one to look and feel better, to be better to have better "things". I learned that I need to take a step back away from "popular culture" once in awhile, sometimes more often.

I take a step back and with a deep breathe look at all the wonderful things in my life, I say "thank you" out loud as I picture all of the great people, things and situations in my life. And the next time I'm bumbared with commercials about my skin care or weight, that make me question myself. I know  "Whats So Interesting"  about me, and why I don't need "products" to make me feel or look better.

Interesting is defined as "holding or catching the attention". So next time you find yourself thinking  "Whats So Interesting ?" about me; consider the characteristics you have that "hold and catch the attention"  of your partner, friends and family members. The important people in your life. 

Memorial Day Weekend

During this Holiday weekend many of us have plans to go to the  beach, a barbecue, amusement parks, parties and many others events. All of this is fantastic and I too have plans. But I also feel it's important to step back and look at what Memorial Day means. We here in the USA have this national holiday to celebrate man and women who served in the armed forces and died as well as those who are still with us. I think giving thanks to those people is just as important. We can learn a lesson from Memorial Day weekend; which is, people we love do small things for us daily, things like pick up after us, pack us lunch , encourage us to keep moving forward, etc. and many times we don't notice, let's stop and say Thank You to our husband , wife, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, friend,
"Thank You for all you do for us daily".

Have a beautiful Memorial Day Weekend.

"Thin Line Between Love and Hate"

Spring is here and we all want to be outside. Enjoying the weather. Sometimes by ourselves sometimes with someone else.

Whatever choice we make decides how we feel or act. I know because this happens to me. But I also know that because it is a "decision" I choose how I feel. "What are you saying Mercedes ?!" I'm saying that we don't have to allow outside influences change our mood. We can choose to be ourselves all of the time. What makes "us humans" different from other spices is the ability to think to use logic and our own experiences to live our life.

We choose between love or hate. The "thin line" is where we stand every day.

Because You Deserve It

Today I recived roses from my boyfriend. He handed them to me after I took my long afterwork shower. It was a beautiful surprise. I share this on my blog to bring up the topic of what "you deserve".

Yes each of us deserves to be pampered, to feel apperciated, loved, cared for, attended to; it's a great feeling to receive especially from someone special in your life. But it's also a great feeling to give. When I give I feel useful and powerful, because I have the ability to change another persons mood with what I do to/for another person.

With that said not everyone has that special someone to receive from or give to. That's excellent why I think it's more important to give first and formost to yourself first, because when you do this you eliminate any expections and  live in the moment. "Giving and Receiving" to yourself first "because you deserve it".

"You Just Keep Writing"

At a recent Brunch with my fellow Romance Writers of America members I had the pleasure of hearing the wonderful Sandra Kitt speak. Sandra Kitt is an African-American author of contemporary romance novels. She spoke on the importance of writing what you want and how she leaves the editing to the editor. "You write down what you mean to say the first time".

I could not have been more inspired by a Romance Author to continue to write and not to let the feeling of confusion or writing for the masses stop you, "You just keep writing" she answered to one of members with a question regarding her writing style.

Inspiration is everywhere we go, we choose how and what words will effect us. So I will "just keep writing"

Permission to Love

I think we adults are so caught up in the everyday chores, responsibilities and over analyzing of our lives that we often forget that we are human; as humans we need love just like any living creature. That sense of taking time out to show your love for the people and things that we love are just as important as showing up to work, paying bills, taking care of the kids.

The simple things like enjoying your favorite meal alone or with your partner to making love as often as you want are things many of us love to do. I say why, should we have to wait for a special day or a sick day to pamper ourselves or someone we love. The same instructions we receive in the safety manual of a commercial airplane should apply to our lives daily; you must place that air mask on yourself first before you can help another person. Give yourself permission to love, Take care of you first and you will always be better equipped to help others. 

Because I Love

I woke this morning happy as a Bird in Spring. I started to reminisce on the little wonderful things in my life, and I came up with a poem.

Because I love I sang a song to you this morning
Because I love I woke up to sunshine in my eyes with no windows around
Because I love I see beauty when I look in the mirror
Because I love I walk with two pep's in my step
Because I love I see flowers everywhere on my subway ride to work
Because I love I see you everywhere I go
Because I love


Let me know what you think of my poem, or you have one you would like to share please do so in the comments.

On the Topic of Romance

It's not every day that I get a few minutes in my day to just sit and think of nothing important, not my schedule, to do list, bills or appointments; and in that moment in those few minutes of silence I often find myself thinking of my boyfriend. I think of the moments we have spent together, and look forward to more sweet moments like those.

I realize that not everyone has that special someone in their life, and many of us who are in relationships don't always spend as much time as we would like to with our signinafigant other.

My point ? You might be asking yourself, my point is I want to savor every minute I get with my partner so that I have those moments that help get me through my day.

What triggers you to think of that special someone in your life ?

Mercedes Cruz - My Writing Process

What am I working on?
I am working on my first novel "Plato Sucio" (working title). I am trying to keep my characters as real to NYC Latinos as I can without giving into stereotypes.

How does my work differ from others in its genre?
I would like to think that my work differs from others in that I have mainly Latino characters.  Although I was once told by a romance writing professor that the ethnicity of the characters should not be an issue or make the novel any different. I strongly dis-agreed with that professor. Just like people in different socio-economic backgrounds differ in experiences, there is no doubt that ethnicity plays a role in the characters life. Yes of course assimilation is a natural accruing process when it comes to lifestyle. However I strongly feel that my characters embody both the American side where they where born and raised and their parents nationality.

Why do I write what I do?
I write because I find it therapeutic; it helps me release the thoughts I have running around in my mind. Some people use gloves and a punching bag, I use a pen and paper and sometimes my hands and laptop. When I started writing I just wanted to write romance I did not choose a genre, I sort of just fell into Erotica.

How does my writing process work?
I make it a habit to write daily, some days I don't get to but I add it to my calendar and make it the last thing I do at night. I also don't answer calls or get up from my seat until I finish writing the amount of time I said I would. By using a timer I control how long my writing session will be.

Check out these other great authors and their writing process:

Vanessa Peters writers multicultural romance with a mix of passion and spice. Visit her atwww.vanessa-peters.com.

F.Leonora Solomon is a Ravenous Romance editor and writer living in New York City. Visit her atfdotleonora.wordpress.com

Del Carmen writes sexy, sinful and satisfying erotica tales.  Visit her at www.mydelcarmen.com.

Happy New Year 2014 !!!!!

This New Year brings a blank page for new experiences; places to visit, people to meet, goals to reach, and positions to try with my significant other. It was a wonderful 2013 moments with friends and families that are unforgettable. I did a lot of personal reflecting, closed the door to several toxic "friendships" and opened the door to real friendships with people who are genuinely interested in developing mutually benefiting relationships. The biggest lesson learned in 2013 "Let go of the baggage and the journey gets better".
I have faith that my relationships whether romantic or otherwise will be full of beautiful experiences.

With that said I wish you dear reader a 2014 full of abundance and love, may your wettest dreams come true.