Dedication

Dedication -defined  as the act of dedicating or the state of being dedicated.

This single word is very powerful, its often used to described what one person would do for another or others. I consider the word very special to me, in dealing with my daily life. I have goals that I have set for myself both personal and professional; and I know with dedication those goals are attainable.

But there is something else I like about the word. Its the simple fact that its a state of acting or being. Most people have so much going on in their daily schedules that they're not dedicated to anything its, just the same thing every week.

For me when I see a person who is dedicated I think "oh that's hot"; I see the sweat, tears, anger, fatigue, and other feels that come up for that person but they continue in  "the state of being dedicated".When you are dedicated to something that is special to you; aside from family, work, business, it says something about you. I think it sends a message " I care about me and what I want".

For me personally with my partner this translates into better sex; I'm turned on by his dedication to himself, and that's always a good thing.

Love and War

This past week the international news has been filled with the story of war between to neighboring countries. It is unfortunate when individuals and/or as a groups collectively decide that there is no other option but war.

How does this relate to relationships between men and women ? We choose everyday when we wake up how we will feel that day. Sometimes we have things on our minds that we allow to dictate how we will feel and react the whole day. Granted I have what I consider a healthy relationship with my boyfriend we argue; say nasty things to each other, scream, shout; but by the end of the day we forget that we were fighting and we go to bed as if nothing happened ( most of the time). The next morning we're the same love birds, from our first date years ago.

I believe we can apply how we react to strangers the same way we react to loved ones, who at one point in our lives were also strangers.

Education is the key to Great SEX !!

I spent this past weekend knee deep in the topic of sex and the different types of sex. I purchased the book titled "Sex Unlimited" by Dr. Charley Ferrer, she was a guest speaker at the event I attended. On my train ride home I explored the book from the comfort of my purse, where no fellow passengers could take a look at my book with their wandering eyes.

As I continued to read the book at home, enjoying the topic and absorbing the information; a small window in my sub conscience opens up; its as if I'm letting the old stale air (old beliefs) out  and letting in fresh air (new beliefs). I have always thought of myself as open minded and well educated on the topic of sex, but like anything if we don't use it we lose it.

To me the topic of SEX is extremely important in my life as an adult, it is the best way to release tension, and one of the important ways we show love for our partners. Now that I've opened up that window, I'm curious, curious to learn more about sex and my body.

Education the more you know the better it gets

Freedom

It was a wonderful 4th of July Weekend; I celebrated with my boyfriend and friends. The weather was perfect, the food was perfect and so was the company. As I reflect on what the 4th of July means to me as US citizen, I think about all of the little wonderful things in my life. Things like fresh air, an abundance of restaurants, shops, amusement parks, parks, museums that I have access to, the protection I get from those who serve this country in the armed forces. I am grateful for it all everyday.

I also think about the people in my life; friends, family, boyfriend and the choices they made that led them into my life. I see freedom as a tool that everyone all over the world have access to. We choose everyday what we are going to do with what we have. I think its important not to waste that freedom we are all given, if you have people around you that you love and that love you, show and tell them everyday; because at the end freedom is not free we have to work at it. So if you have it and want to keep it, you have to make time for it.

Trust ??

Recently I have allowed my negative thoughts take over my mind; I have been questioning all that I do and those people in my life, perhaps its just a normal part of life was we grow wiser. I think to question most things in life is the best approach in life, but when we allow these unanswered questions to take over our mind and everyday choices, it becomes a problem. Not knowing can leave us confused, angry, and uncomfortable.

I've found my own solution to this small dilemma of questioning / over thinking , I make up my mind with the information I have right there and stick to my decision. If everything works out great, if it does all go perfect, I get to learn what I don't like and maybe how to do it differently, but whatever I choose I trust my choice.

This system works for in all aspects of my life including my imitate relationship with my partner, not knowing can be fun, new places, new positions, new ideas. We get involved in relationships with people we trust, we trust them have our best interest at hand; so its important to have the same trust from ourselves.

I trust this blog post makes sense.

Work B$t@h

"Work B$t@h" my new favorite song by Ms. Britney Spears. The title is to the point and so are the lyrics. Why is this my new favorite song, well for all the right reasons. Everything about the song is true, you have to work for what you want. You work to pay your bills, you work cooking meals ,cleaning your place and work on having a good relationship with your significant other.

So when I feel tired mentally and physically from a long week of work, I think of all the things I'm working for the great things in my life that make it easier and more enjoyable due to the work I put in and even though everyday won't be a "work b$t@h" day, when it is I will be putting in extra work with my new favorite song.

"You Better Work B$t@h"

Is it Time for Us ?

Lately I have been juggling a very busy schedule with events after work and on weekends. During these hectic times, I still find time to take care of myself, get my manicure and pedicure, my hair done and maybe a full body massage. I meet up with a friend for drinks and even read a book and going shopping online, and yes I consider all of the above little things I do for myself a must; so I fit it in to my schedule no matter what.

So as I sit here and write my blog post weekly, I also think about what did I not make a priority in my schedule last week, that perhaps I should have. Things like drinking more water, getting more sleep, cleaning the house, cleaning out my closet and one very important "to do" spend time with my partner. Too often we neglect our partners; husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, life partner, special someone, we figure they should understand "I'm busy". Yes you're busy, busy doing what ? 

I realize adding time into our schedule to spend together is a must, so for me if that means adding the "event" to my phone calendar and inviting my partner then that's what I'm doing. Some people might find that tacky or impersonal. Every couple has to do what works for them. 

So if my partner ask "is it time for us?" I can look at my calendar and answer that.