The Captains' Desires

This weeks blog post is dedicated to "desires".
Definition: to wish or long for; crave, want.

I desire many things in my life, material, mental, and spiritually things. I desire to have a well written blog that inspires, motives readers to be a better person, that's just one example. I bring up the subject because I realized long time ago that we individually carry within us the ability to motive ourselves, where does that motivation come from, you got it "DESIRE" when you want it, you want it. I love that I have some many desires, it keeps me going everyday even when I want to quit my 9-5 or just tell some people to "go shove it".

This also takes me to the part were I bring up my relationship with my wonderful boyfriend. I discuss my desires with him, he is clearly aware of them and when I am slacking and not doing what I said I would, I can count on him pointing it out. He never once criticized my desires; OK maybe once, my desire to travel the world with him, but I'm still working on it. But seriously its so important to have a partner that supports your desires, I encourage everyone to share your wants with your partner on a daily basis. Also when the haters come by to visit, whether at work, family or friends, and they will; please just remember who is running the ship, if you look in the mirror you'll see the Captain of the ship.


Captain Mercedes Cruz

Our Handbook

This year has been a year full of changes for the better, a new job, new apartment, new friends, but most importantly a stronger relationship with my partner.

As time passes and we each continue to pursue our goals while supporting each other our commitment for each other gets stronger. I often wondered how couples living with each other for years in harmony did it. I know there is no handbook on "how to navigate your relationship" because each couple has a unique relationship with each other. However if I made a handbook for my past self to read it would definitely say "keep moving forward each towards a goal, always having each other in mind and nothing is impossible".

"The Only One"

Sometimes when I'm alone, and no one is around. I think about all of the wonderful people, things and places in my life. With that said, I think about my relationship with my boyfriend. A wonderful man who I love and respect.

I never thought to myself "the only one" for me when I met my boyfriend or when I fell in love with him, and I still don't believe in that theory. What I do believe is that relationships are a compromise between two consenting  adults. The relationship has its up's and down's. In the process we learn each others ways, and have decided to stay together and move forward together.

For me the only one for sure always in my life is myself, I know that no matter what happens between me and someone else. The only one I will always have to responded to is me, because I can't leave my body until its time to go.

Getting to the point "The Only One" already exist in your life, look in the mirror and you will see that person.

Anticipating

One of the best things I do with my weekends ( Sunday evening) is prepare myself for my week. I figure out what I want to accomplish that week ( Monday- Friday). This leaves me with no room to waste time on non-essential task for the week. This also means that before I schedule anything that might and will come up during the week, I can look at my already set schedule and decide if I can do it. This concept of preparing for the week is not new for me, but putting it into action; preparing and committing is definitely new.

I now relieve that the old me a few months ago is not the same me of today.

That by preparing for the outcomes I want, I am anticipating and attracting those outcomes.

This way when my wonderful boyfriend wants to play I don't feel stressed out because I don't know when I can fit in the time or feel guilty because I took time to play instead of doing a task I meant to do.

The old me didn't make concrete plans for the future because she wasn't sure what she wanted but the new me is clear and plans for what she wants. This style of living means that the free time I have is precious and I can't afford to waste it on non important things. This in turn makes my relationship with my partner even stronger, because he sees I have a strong passion for my goals, but still make time for him.

Ignore and Ignite

After what seemed to be one of the shortest and productive weekends I've had in a long time. I realized that by planning and staying committed to the small weekly "must do's" I can accomplish my goals. With that said this planning part means ignoring a lot of things, including things that happen to "come up", because something always comes up. Once the planning is said and done comes the most important part, committing to what you've planned. The commitment is what I consider the igniting part, just like the stove you need to turn on the fire to cook food, no fire and the pot could stay there the whole year and nothing will happen; well expect your food will rot.

This theory for me also includes making time with your significant other; you have to make time by conditioning yourself to ignore many little things and ignite (arose) each other, however you feel necessary.

Gratitude

This blog post is dedicated to everyone who has ever read my blog. I started this blog because I have opinions that I want to share with others and I hope that the reader might find some of my opinions thought provoking and in turn it improves their life.

With that said I also want to Thank directly my wonderful boyfriend for his love and respect. He supports me in everything I do; sometimes with a smirk and a side comment, when that thing I want to do gets in the way of "our time" together.

I have many things to be grateful for daily, but especially for the people in my life that make it so GRREAT.

In December of last year, I didn't like the direction my life was going and I knew that it was up to me to take a hold of the wheel and take my life where I wanted it to go. Its been almost a year now and although I have many goals not yet accomplished I have faith and gratitude for the car (me) and the road (steps) I am on and the places its taking me to.

Life is like a box of chocolate you never know what you're going to get, unless you pick the chocolates your self, than you get what you want.

I pick my own chocolates.

Mercedes Cruz

Motivation

This past weekend was filled with fun activities for me. I managed to complete tasks from my "must do" list and I also did some fun things in the mean time. I felt relaxed and productive.

I also had a lot of motivation, I prepared a great Sunday Football meal for my boyfriend, prepared my lunch for the entire week and cleared my email inbox.

I am not sure where the motivation came from, maybe it was something I read, heard, or watched. I do know that as I completed these task' , I never thought about it as a chore or a "must do",  but simply something I was doing because I wanted to and it felt.

From what I can tell, when motivation strikes go with it and get the most out of it.