Trust ??

Recently I have allowed my negative thoughts take over my mind; I have been questioning all that I do and those people in my life, perhaps its just a normal part of life was we grow wiser. I think to question most things in life is the best approach in life, but when we allow these unanswered questions to take over our mind and everyday choices, it becomes a problem. Not knowing can leave us confused, angry, and uncomfortable.

I've found my own solution to this small dilemma of questioning / over thinking , I make up my mind with the information I have right there and stick to my decision. If everything works out great, if it does all go perfect, I get to learn what I don't like and maybe how to do it differently, but whatever I choose I trust my choice.

This system works for in all aspects of my life including my imitate relationship with my partner, not knowing can be fun, new places, new positions, new ideas. We get involved in relationships with people we trust, we trust them have our best interest at hand; so its important to have the same trust from ourselves.

I trust this blog post makes sense.

Work B$t@h

"Work B$t@h" my new favorite song by Ms. Britney Spears. The title is to the point and so are the lyrics. Why is this my new favorite song, well for all the right reasons. Everything about the song is true, you have to work for what you want. You work to pay your bills, you work cooking meals ,cleaning your place and work on having a good relationship with your significant other.

So when I feel tired mentally and physically from a long week of work, I think of all the things I'm working for the great things in my life that make it easier and more enjoyable due to the work I put in and even though everyday won't be a "work b$t@h" day, when it is I will be putting in extra work with my new favorite song.

"You Better Work B$t@h"

Is it Time for Us ?

Lately I have been juggling a very busy schedule with events after work and on weekends. During these hectic times, I still find time to take care of myself, get my manicure and pedicure, my hair done and maybe a full body massage. I meet up with a friend for drinks and even read a book and going shopping online, and yes I consider all of the above little things I do for myself a must; so I fit it in to my schedule no matter what.

So as I sit here and write my blog post weekly, I also think about what did I not make a priority in my schedule last week, that perhaps I should have. Things like drinking more water, getting more sleep, cleaning the house, cleaning out my closet and one very important "to do" spend time with my partner. Too often we neglect our partners; husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, life partner, special someone, we figure they should understand "I'm busy". Yes you're busy, busy doing what ? 

I realize adding time into our schedule to spend together is a must, so for me if that means adding the "event" to my phone calendar and inviting my partner then that's what I'm doing. Some people might find that tacky or impersonal. Every couple has to do what works for them. 

So if my partner ask "is it time for us?" I can look at my calendar and answer that. 

Goals are Sexy

As soon as I come in from a long day of work and after-work activities I usually have my wonderful partner waiting for me at the door with a smile and wink.The same smile and wink he gives me when he wants some nooky. I'm not sure when exactly its started but there came a point in our relationship were we have nooky more often. I want to say that a number of reasons could be the answer including age , and recently moving in together, but its not that easy especially since we are both so busy, we get one day out of the week together. Most times I get home so exhausted all I want to do is crawl to the bed and sleep like a baby.

Don't get me wrong I'm a sexual women, I crave it just as much as my partner does.

My point here is this I notice that when my partner and myself made concrete goals, goals that involved us we found each other more interesting, and that interest turns in to a craving, a craving to be next to that person to surround  yourself with them. Its as if my aspirations are turning him on , he founds it sexy.

So if I need another reason to continue to reach for my goals, besides getting what I ultimately want, in the mean time I get my partners extra attention. I think its a great reason.

What's So interesting ?

I'm constantly questioning what's so interesting about my life ? What's so interstng about Mercedes Cruz. I look at my relationships with my partner, my friends, family and coworkers.

I don't know why exactly I think about these relationships so often, maybe it's the constant reminder I get from the commercials, advertisements and the media, that I need this product or that one to look and feel better, to be better to have better "things". I learned that I need to take a step back away from "popular culture" once in awhile, sometimes more often.

I take a step back and with a deep breathe look at all the wonderful things in my life, I say "thank you" out loud as I picture all of the great people, things and situations in my life. And the next time I'm bumbared with commercials about my skin care or weight, that make me question myself. I know  "Whats So Interesting"  about me, and why I don't need "products" to make me feel or look better.

Interesting is defined as "holding or catching the attention". So next time you find yourself thinking  "Whats So Interesting ?" about me; consider the characteristics you have that "hold and catch the attention"  of your partner, friends and family members. The important people in your life. 

Memorial Day Weekend

During this Holiday weekend many of us have plans to go to the  beach, a barbecue, amusement parks, parties and many others events. All of this is fantastic and I too have plans. But I also feel it's important to step back and look at what Memorial Day means. We here in the USA have this national holiday to celebrate man and women who served in the armed forces and died as well as those who are still with us. I think giving thanks to those people is just as important. We can learn a lesson from Memorial Day weekend; which is, people we love do small things for us daily, things like pick up after us, pack us lunch , encourage us to keep moving forward, etc. and many times we don't notice, let's stop and say Thank You to our husband , wife, partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, friend,
"Thank You for all you do for us daily".

Have a beautiful Memorial Day Weekend.

"Thin Line Between Love and Hate"

Spring is here and we all want to be outside. Enjoying the weather. Sometimes by ourselves sometimes with someone else.

Whatever choice we make decides how we feel or act. I know because this happens to me. But I also know that because it is a "decision" I choose how I feel. "What are you saying Mercedes ?!" I'm saying that we don't have to allow outside influences change our mood. We can choose to be ourselves all of the time. What makes "us humans" different from other spices is the ability to think to use logic and our own experiences to live our life.

We choose between love or hate. The "thin line" is where we stand every day.